I’ve been thinking a lot about writing some cheese-dick blog about this last year of my life. I wasn’t going to because who really cares? Then I realized that I fucking cared and that I fucking matter. I might not matter to anyone else but I matter to myself. So fuck it, here we go…
The beginning of 2017 was fucking wonderful. My boyfriend at the time and me were at a high point in our relationship, I had the opportunity to go to the stock show again, I had the best birthday party I’ve ever had, and I threw Seth a pretty awesome party as well. By April we adopted a new puppy and named him Copper (which gets us to a different story later on). Unfortunately that just gets us to the 4th month of the year. At least I can say that they were good months.
I’ll be honest, I dont really remember much from May or June for that matter. I’m sure they weren’t particularly good or bad months, I probably just skated through them. When July came around, Seth and I broke up and for some reason I wasn’t sad at the time. I think I knew that our time wasn’t over yet. I was right… we got back together just to fall apart again.
Either way, by August my life was basically over. Nothing was what I had hoped it would be. I also didn’t think I’d get through the time but here I am. September, October, and November all are kind of a blur to me. I remember specific moments, like Halloween, but months as a whole aren’t in my memory. By December, things didn’t really look up fully, and this has been a challlenging month. Hopefully the last challenging month for a while. Christmas sucked this year, I pushed certain friends away (Rebecca if you read this, I’m sorry and I hope you’ll forgive me.), and I also had to grow the balls for everyone and surrender Copper to the shelter. I don’t think I’m ready yet to talk about Copper, but someday I will.
Although this year was really tough, I am forced to learn lessons for the hardship. If I didn’t try and take something away from everything, good or bad, I wouldn’t move on with life and grow as a human being in this fucked up world.
So what the fuck did I learn from all of this?
1. My depression was/is much more serious than I thought it was.
You see, In December of last year, Seth and I broke up two days before Christmas. My mom made me cut all my hair off, and I forced myself to seek therapy. My depression and anxiety got the absolute best of me. I knew that if I didn’t get help, I’d do something serious and hurt everyone else.
2. My suicidal thoughts were a real thing.
I had always suffered with suicidal tendencies, but once the tendencies weren’t enough, actions were my next step. If i hadn’t sought help and got myself on anti depressants, I’m not sure where I’d be right now.
3. I found out who my true friends are.
With all the shit I went through this year, I realized what friends were willing to stick by my side even if I do them wrong, and which ones were just happy I was single again. True friends are really hard to find. So thank you to Gianna, Alex, Zeb, Conor, Trent, Rachel, Mo, and everyone else I can’t think of right now. You guys really got me through this year.
4. It’s okay to be broken.
I learned that everyone is broken in their own way, and some of us express it more than others. One of my best friends mom died a couple of years ago and she struggles with depression and anxiety just as much as I do, but she doesn’t show it. I didn’t find out about her mom dying till 4 months after it happened. I wasn’t totally surprised that she didn’t tell me, but at the same time I was shocked I didn’t know.
5. I have found my childish side of me again.
Anyone that actually knows me knows that I used to be the tie dye obsessed, Spongebob loving hippy. During my relationship, I lost a little bit of that. Which isn’t all bad, but I missed it. Once I remembered who I was as an independent person, I found my childish side of me again. I haven’t taken off my tie dye onesie in a few days because I’d rather be comfortable than look like an adult.
I’m not totally sure what my point is with this blog, but I know the hell that I have endured this last year, and I know that if I didn’t walk through it, I wouldn’t have ever grown as a person. I may not have walked through it with grace and dignity, but I walked through it dammit. And to me, thats all that fucking matters.
So as I stumble drunk into 2018, I am prepared to throw some off my bad habits, my fake friends, and all the shit still weighing me down from 2017 out of the window. Fuck all the negative this year. I plan on making 2018 my bitch, and having the best damn year of my life.
To my friends and members of the Trashcan Clan, here is to 2018. Let’s fuck some shit up and throw some shit out of windows. Life is too short to be unhappy this year. I love all you fuckers and wish everyone the best. Cheers!